Isn’t it funny how everyone knows so much about your depression? The super smart ones will even tell you how to fix it. How kind of them.
Since I became more open with my depression, I can’t help but notice the amount of advice I get. The people who don’t believe me change the subject. The ones that don’t know what to say just simply apologize. There’s a good friend or two in there that take the time to have a conversation about what is going on. But the select few — the over achievers — they really wanna fix me.
If I hear someone tell me one more time to “go to the beach”, I am going to bitch slap them. They say “You live in Hawaii, you can’t be depressed in Hawaii”.
It saddens me to my core that people think this is okay. It makes me think about the lack of empathy in their lives. The lack of education about mental health. And how little they care to understand what another human being is going through.
I can appreciate that they think they are helping me. I even give them the benefit of the doubt that they are just trying to do what they think will help. But at the end of the day, it does nothing but exhaust me and make me feel even more depressed.
Don’t they know how much I wish I WANTED to go to the beach? How guilty I feel for not taking more advantage of this beautiful place I live in? How nervous I was to tell them about my depression in the first place? Don’t they get that? Why can’t they get that?
These are some of the reasons I wanted to start this blog. I hope that I can educate people. That I can spark some conversation. Even if it’s just one conversation. I hope that somebody in the world will better understand what this evil monster does to people and how to help them.
My advice to these people?
Take the time to understand. Ask questions. Use Google if you must. Do something that will show genuine care and empathy. Try harder.
And to the sufferers.. Don’t close off. Try. Keep trying. Find someone that you need to understand and make them understand. Even it takes a while. We all need someone to understand us. Please try, I promise you’re worth it.